|Looking Beyond the Sexes
A woman gets pregnant, and her boyfriend leaves her. In Karen Horney’s “The Distrust Between the Sexes”, she explains how a person’s psychological history causes him/her to distrust people of the opposite sex because of certain expectations they might have. Longings for happiness, childhood reflections, and childhood conflicts are all things that invent these expectations.
First off, people are longing for happiness, while setting their expectations at high. Horney states, “All of our unconscious wishes, contradictory in their nature and expanding boundlessly on all sides, are waiting here for their fulfillment” (341). Children are raised to believe that relationships with the opposite sex are their doorway to happiness. Horney says, “The partner is supposed to be strong, and at the same time helpless, to dominate us and be dominated by us, to be ascetic and to be sensuous” (341). People expect their partners to be too many things, which wi...